Saying 'no' is not that bad. We have always been taught to help someone and not move back because they think you can help them, and that's the biggest compliment anyone can offer to you. We should always be grateful to them. I always obeyed this and kept saying 'yes'.
But excess of everything is terrible. Everything in excess is opposed to nature. You feel happy by seeing their grateful faces whenever you help them. But doesn't it mean that you are making them habituated to not work on their own? YES!! Sometimes it does.
The thing about being the person who can't say 'no' is that you are no longer doing someone a favor. They will push it on you like it's your job. And when you say 'no' the first time, you will suddenly feel like you become the bad guy. The fear of losing your friend will stick on your mind, and that will always force you to keep saying 'yes'.
Now I am learning to say 'no', and I am liking the person I am becoming. After this long vacation, I will be a different person whose 'nos' doesn't get stuck in his mouth. I am learning not to let people dominate over me. After this, I know people will be rude towards me; they will show that I am doing which I shouldn't do. But in 5-6 days, everything will be under control. I will begin to prioritize myself. After this, no one will be able to take control of my own. I will be the real 'ME'.
Say 'no' to the ones who are unkind, rude, and selfish. Say 'no' to those who are not grateful and trying to walk over you. If they text me that they "need to talk!". Bro!! I am not a therapist. Surely we will talk but not at the cost of my own mental health. I will be there for you only if when I know that you can be there for me, too.
This type of little changes will make your life your own. You will be able to enjoy your life in your way. You will find your true companions. And that will be the moment when you will realize the difference between fake and faithful friendship and also the bitter truth of life.
Manoj Kumar
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