I am talking about toxic positivity. Toxic positivity usually isn't intended to cause harm, but it dismisses emotions instead of affirming them. Often it happens in a situation when we want to help but don't know what to say to express it. I think it has increased during the pandemic hence now it is a topic we should focus on.
Take toxic positivity as a false reassurance. Sometimes, people say no matter how dire or difficult a situation is, you should maintain a positive mindset. The "Good vibes only" mindset, you know! Yes, it's true that having a positive mindset on life is good for your mental well-being. But you should also know that life isn't always positive. Everyone in this world deal with painful emotions and experiences!!
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Once one of my friends was telling me how scared or uncertain she is about her future. It was hard to hear, so I tried to reassure he's that everything will be alright. This can also be an example of toxic positivity because even unintentionally, but I tried to shut her down when she was trying to share something difficult. This creates a disconnection between two persons. For me, it was never intended but such little things can create a big impact on a relationship as any person can't bond with me if they feel that I'm unwilling to sit in their grief, sadness, and anger with them.
But now the question is how to avoid this? It is simple, we need to imply "Think before you say" to our daily routine. Instead of saying "Just stay positive", say "That must be really hard" or "I'm sorry you are going through this" or "It's okay to be sad or cry, I also do. Can I get you a tissue or a hug๐ซ"
Hence, "be positive yaar" is NOT a solution to every problem.
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